I have a serious question to ask you…

This might seem weird to some of you but I just need a different viewpoint.

Right, so last month this guy on my course asked me out for coffee when he was drunk. He hardly ever talks to me during any of the lectures, but we exchanged numbers and kinda started just casually texting about normal stuff. I never actually agreed to go out for coffee, I was just being friendly.

I mentioned this to my mum and she goes a little crazy about it and basically just assumes this guy is my boyfriend, and I’m like, he’s really not, I’m not interested in that sort of thing. And then she starts going on about ‘just giving him a chance’ and ‘you should really get some experience of dating,’ and, the best one, ‘you should stop being so antisocial.’

Then, one night he gets insanely drunk and asks me out to my face, so I said ‘Sorry, but I don’t think you should ask that sort of thing when you’ve had a drink.’ (Rather smoothly done, I felt) So he texted me later saying sorry, and I said it’s fine, don’t worry about it and I haven’t heard from him since, and he’s just blanking me in lectures, but I don’t really mind that, I mean nothing actually happened between us but he seems to have taken it as a personal affront that I didn’t go out with him.

Anyway, now my mother is constantly bugging me asking me if he’s got in contact because apparently I should text him saying I want to have this coffee date, and I’m sorry that it didn’t work out the time he asked me. I keep explaining to her that I’m not interested in stuff like that - to quote Sherlock: ‘Relationships? Not really my area.’ But the other day she told me that I was heartless for not going for a coffee. Like seriously? Why? I don’t understand…I’m not interested, so wouldn’t it be easier to not waste the poor guy’s time?

Can someone just explain to me why my mum is making me feel awful about this cause I really don’t get it…